Raise Your Voice

People argue for the littlest of reasons, and it ranges from toddlers, over their toys, to women, over their boys. It can last for as short as a few seconds to years. But what drives a person to raise one's voice in a manner that always ends sour? What pushes someone to risk ruining a relationship just to prove a point?

I've recently been in and out of an argument with a beloved person in my life. Of course, I had may fair share of sour notes and comments, but we're all good now. I felt bad about those things I said, and the things I didn't say, but what made me feel stupid was how much of an idiot I was to risk a blooming relationship just to prove a single point.

We've all had this type of argument at one point in time, some far too many that one normally should. But we all know it would only end up in two completely different endings, either:

> You get to a point where it doesn't make sense to talk about it or try to work it out, and eventually go separate ways, never to look at each other the same way again.

or

> You get to a point where it doesn't make sense to talk about it, but you DO TRY to work it out, and eventually get it fixed, and your relationship stays.

NOTE: I have been down BOTH roads, but I don'f know if there are any other "paths" down the road of conflict.

They say conflict is good in a relationship, as it helps strengthen bonds. But these same conflicts can also be the detonator of the bomb to your relationship.

I will not make this a long blog about how one should avoid or deal with conflict, but rather, I'd like to address the fact that these petty fights can lead to a serious deep wound not only to your heart, but to your partner, friend, relative, etc.

So my only suggestion is this: Never raise your voice at someone unless its someone with a hearing problem. No good will come out of trying to a conversation if you're not willing to listen.