"Oh, boohoo! I'm sure someone else is having it harder than you, so shut the fuck up!"And they're not wrong to say that. It's completely logical to say that someone else is struggling with something much more devastating and life-changing than most. But does that mean we can't acknowledge that someone was suffering? We, as human beings, live because we go through challenges and obstacles, some harder than others. We all have our problems, we deal with them the best way we can, and we try to get others to understand that it is a problem for us.
"You're rich/successful/etc., you shouldn't be complaining so much. Just suck it up and don't whine like a baby."I can see why people would be quick to chastise them, seeing as they're better off than most, and they seem to be living decently anyways. But do we really need to mock someone who is clearly distraught, especially when it is warranted and something that gravely affects their lives? Of course there are those who get upset over the smallest things, stuff that don't even make sense to be upset about. But when someone gets slandered for something seriously bothering them, it doesn't sit well with me. It shouldn't sit well with anyone.
"He's complaining about not getting (large amount of something), while I only get (marginally lesser amount of something)! Fuck off, mate!"Okay, I get it. You don't get as much as he does, but what seems larger for you could still be affecting them just as much. A loss is a loss, and having your work go unrecognized, and not get the proper exposure, that makes your work lose meaning. It drives you to say, "What the fuck?! I worked hard on this, and I'm not getting the credit I should be getting. This is bullshit!" And it sucks when, despite being upset about it, people go about criticizing you and shaming you for ever being upset that something isn't going in your favor.
Yes, not everything will go according to plan, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be openly fumed about it. It shows that you care for what you do, and that it is a serious matter that needs attention. When something affects more than one person, it's not usually the one at the top making statements about it not going right. Most of the time, they point to others who clearly have no control over it, and blame them. But in some rare occasions, you see the people with the proper means to deliver a message, a way to communicate to everyone that something isn't going well, and most of the time they mean it so that everyone can regain what was lost and hope to fix the problem by bringing it to light.
So yes, not everyone's problem is as big as yours is, but it is a problem nonetheless. No need to belittle the stress and frustrations on others, just because it doesn't measure up to yours. It's their struggle and loss, and acknowledging that people have do deal with their own set of circumstances, regardless of how well off or despondent they are, makes for a better chance of people working together to solve problems.
